How do you get your parents on board without completely blindsiding them? Metta Lifestyles has developed seven simple steps to help with having this conversation about retirement communities.
Manage your expectations Be open and willing to listen and expect any reaction. Remember and remind your parents, it is just a conversation. Many different factors can affect their reaction and willingness to engage in the topic at that time. It is common to plant the seed and start various smaller conversations ahead of a larger, deeper discussion.
Do your research Before you talk to your parents, come prepared! Know and understand what their daily, weekly and monthly needs are. Ask around and see what other families have done. Look into different homes in the area and ask for information packages. This will arm you with information when your parents ask you questions.
Frame your attitude Stay in a positive mindset, avoiding bringing judgement, criticism and blame into the conversations. You want your parents to see this as a positive change, so keeping a positive attitude is essential.
Make a plan After having conversations making a plan is your best bet to keeping everyone comfortable and on-board. Determine what steps you will take every month and creating a SMART plan will keep you on track. In month one you will call five homes, month two, book two tours, etc.
Include everyone In this process, you want everyone feeling like their opinions and thoughts are valued. Ensure that all parties are involved by setting aside time to have conversations together!
Take small steps You don’t always have to go big! Taking baby steps is a great way to get your parents on board with the idea of a retirement home. Try starting with day visits and lunches with the staff and residents. By building relationships, you are building trust and credibility.
Make sure to avoid surprises Throughout the whole process, avoid any surprises or things that may come as a shock to your parents. Keep communicating and letting them know what to expect with each step along the way. Be sure to involve them and include them in conversations. Defer manageable decisions that keep them an active participant in this transition.
Metta Lifestyles offers a range of care for your loved one. We understand that the transition can be difficult; that is why we are here to provide custom care best suited for your family member. To learn more about the programming and the care options, please book a free consultation with a Metta Lifestyles representative.